A leader’s mindset affects the entirety of the group, but with the pandemic and the things it make us experience, disengagement is slowly becoming present and it’s making life a little harder to live. 

Left with no choice but to find and do work in order to survive, we tend to pay more attention to that job instead of crafting the life we want. In these times, learning how to live a rhythm-organized life is necessary for you to avoid burning your entire soul out. 

David Taylor–Klaus is the author of the best-selling new book “Mindset Mondays with DTK: 52 Ways to REWIRE Your Thinking and Transform Your Life” – a book that will guide you towards living a life in rhythm. He reintroduces successful entrepreneurs and senior executives to their families, and challenges leaders in their teams to reach their highest levels of performance in both their professional and personal lives. As a serial entrepreneur, David was recognised for combining candour, intelligence, and humour with masterful coaching.  

In this episode, David shares his insights on the disengagement leaders experience that slowly kills them and their being. Here, he discusses how a ‘work-life balance’ system practiced in your life actually affects you in a way that exhausts you out, and how good it would be for you to shift into the idea of ‘life rhythm’. Listen and check these concepts out. 

What you will learn from this episode: 

  • Discover why the concept of ‘work-life balance’ is actually killing you 
  • Learn ways on how you can start making a move to change the way you experience life with the help of a framework 
  • Find out what ‘life rhythm’ is and why it’s better than the idea of ‘work-life balance 

We are paying attention to work more than our life when in fact it should be crafting the life you want.”  

David Taylor-Klaus 

Topics Covered:

01:23 – The reason why David focused on the concept of mindset out of everything that’s possible to cover in leadership. 

02:29 – What is the biggest challenge leaders face in business today? 

04:44 – What are some of the biggest mistakes people are making in their attempts on living a good life? 

05:57 – Some actionable tips on how someone can actually start making a move and have traction. 

08:45 – Other actionable steps David recommends for you to take. 

10:11 – Another tip David shares for you to start getting more out of what you read: The REWIRE Framework. 

11:57 – A free resource: The REWIRE Framework explained. 

14:35 – The link that will lead you to see the REWIRE Frameworkhttps://www.mindsetmondayswithdtk.com  

15:05 – Why does David hate the term ‘work-life balance’ so much and why it should be changed to ‘life rhythm’. 

Key Takeaways:

“Mindset, for me, is the most critical element to leadership because not only does the leader’s mindset impact his or her ability to lead and the way they lead; it’s contagious. I’ve always heard that a leader sets the weather. The leader’s mindset is something that he imbues, or I’ll say, emits and becomes contagious to their team, and that’s something incredibly important. It changes the way teams work.” – David Taylor – Klaus 

“When you stop and look at your life and take an assessment with blameless discernment, letting go of the judgment, just objectively looking at where you are and where things are going, you’ll look forward and you’ll realize, ‘If I change nothing, if I keep going the way I’m going, it’s just going to keep getting worse’.” – David Taylor – Klaus 

“You can wait until you hit bottom, or you can make the decision that this is the bottom and you can start taking action to change things.” – David Taylor – Klaus 

“When you change your lens, you change the way you experience the world.” – David Taylor – Klaus 

“Work shouldn’t get any more priority than play or family or connection or the things that truly move you. Work is just another part of life.” – David Taylor – Klaus 

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Full Episode Transcript:

David Taylor – Klaus  

We are paying attention to work more than our life when in fact it should be crafting the life you want. 

Bruce Ross  

Hello and a very warm welcome to another edition of unshakable leadership. My name is Bruce Ross and it’s my privilege to have the highly regarded David Taylor – Klaus with us here today. David, a very warm welcome to you Sir. Whereabouts in the world are you? 

David Taylor – Klaus  

I’m on the east coast of the US in Atlanta, Georgia.  

Bruce Ross  

Brilliant. Excellent. So a little background on David. David reintroduces successful entrepreneurs and senior executives to their families. A serial entrepreneur, David was recognised for combining candour, intelligence, and humour with masterful coaching. He challenges leaders in their teams to reach their highest levels of performance in both their professional and personal lives. His best selling new book, “Mindset Mondays with DTK: 52 Ways to REWIRE Your Thinking and Transform Your Life” is available on Amazon. I’m looking forward to this because mindset is crucial. Why did you, out of anything and everything that’s possible to cover in leadership, why settle on mindset? 

David Taylor – Klaus  

Well, two reasons. One is, I wrote the book I needed to read. And as I dug deeper into mindset, there wasn’t something out there that gave a chance to give readily digestible, immediately actionable content, and a framework to help make the learning real and lasting. So that’s why I wrote the book the way I wrote the book. And also, mindset, for me, is the most critical element to leadership because not only does the leader’s mindset impact his or her ability to lead and the way they lead; it’s contagious. I’ve always heard that a leader sets the weather. The leader’s mindset is something that he imbues, or I’ll say, emits and becomes contagious to their team, and that’s something incredibly important. It changes the way teams work. 

Bruce Ross  

Got it. So you may have answered this question, my first question, but what is the biggest challenge that you have leaders face in business today? 

David Taylor – Klaus  

Interestingly – disengagement. Now, the stats here in North America are painfully depressing. As of last year, sorry, as of 2019, 83% of employees in the US are anywhere from somewhat to completely disengaged. Well, leaders are too. The challenge is many become disengaged with what moves them, what drives them, what excites them, what electrifies them deeply, and that starts to show up as the over-calibrated. The folks that are eating at their desk more than at home, the spousal resentment, you know, their partner hates their job more than they do, missing kids events, distant relationships with children. All that begins to cascade into, you know, that loss of energy even diminished performance gap filling behaviour like stimulation seeking, and over-eating, and substance abuse, and risky behaviour, and incredibly expensive divorces. I mean, this is, as the leaders begin to self-medicate by filling the gaps of what they’re not getting because they’re disengaged with what’s core and important to them – that reconnecting them there is essential to their intrinsic drivers, and that’s the only way to reverse all this. It makes us conscious, connected, committed, and alive again. So the problem is when they lose that, they lose that internal compass that we all have as we grow up and we begin to lose through our acculturation in our early work careers. 

Bruce Ross  

Wow. Yeah. The departure something as precious as your internal motivators and we begin to feel like, yeah, right. 

David Taylor – Klaus  

They’re living the should life instead of the good life, and it’s very uncomfortable.  

Bruce Ross  

Yeah. You might be pushing a few buttons of listeners, and they’re going, “Hhmm, I’m guilty as you’ve indicated.” And they’ll likely be trying to do something about it, but what are some of the biggest mistakes they’re making in their attempts? 

David Taylor – Klaus  

Waiting too long to address it. If you hear yourself saying that “I got this”, you don’t. “I didn’t.” Look, there’s a concept from the 12-step world called “Raising the Bottom”. When you stop and look at your life and take an assessment with blameless discernment, letting go of the judgment, just objectively looking at where you are and where things are going, you’ll look forward and you’ll realize, “if I change nothing, if I keep going the way I’m going, it’s just going to keep getting worse”. Well, you can wait until you hit bottom, or you can make the decision that this is the bottom and you can start taking action to change things. And the biggest mistake folks make is they wait too long to fix it. 

Bruce Ross 

Yeah. I call it slow death, and I know that feels like as you’re aware of it, but nothing changes. Yeah, right. Okay. So what are some actionable tips? How can someone actually start to make a move, and have traction? 

David Taylor – Klaus  

Look, I’m a big fan of simple. You know, on one hand, it’s incredibly important and powerful to dream bigger than you’ve ever dreamed before to really truly craft a visionary track, and indeed, how many people try to swing for the fences and take massive action? Here’s the thing that makes the difference. It’s taking small repeatable actions every single day. So here’s an easy one. It’s called a celebration journal or a gratitude journal. You can use either flavour. Every night, take five minutes, right before you go to bed. 30 days, and this is what I mean, small actions repeated daily. Do this for 30 days. You can spend five minutes a day. Every night right before you go to bed, capture three things you’re grateful for from the day. Now, “I survived and I didn’t screw up” – those don’t exactly count. The idea is to frame it as something positive. But pick three things that you can celebrate or for which you are grateful from today. Now, you get extra bonus points if you share it with your spouse or significant other or with a close friend, and you get even more points if you enlist them to do it with you. But at the very least, just capture it. Keep a little book by your bed and scratch down those three things every single night.  

What ends up happening is, first of all, you’re holding the successes, and that’s what you’re taking as you go to sleep. Second thing, you’re carrying throughout the day, you begin to build the habit of attending to things with a different light. “What are the things I can celebrate from today or be grateful for today?” And capturing those things at night, you begin to see. Inherently and inevitably, you stop just celebrating little surface things. You start going deeper throughout those 30 days. And 21 to 30 days, depending on whose research you believe – it takes that long to build a new habit. You eventually become quite addicted to the dopamine hit you get from that. It changes the lens through which you see your world, and we know from a quote this attributed to Carl Young, “We do not see the world as it is. We see the world as we are.” As a result, when you change your lens, you change the way you experience the world. That’s what this exercise is for. It’s free, it’s powerful, it’s easy to do and it takes very little time. 

Bruce Ross  

Excellent. And what are some other actionable steps that our listeners can take 

David Taylor – Klaus  

Oh. Breathing. Literally taking, Marshall Goldsmith is inarguably the number one executive coach on the planet, has been rated as such for the better part of his last decade. One of the things he forces and he uses that word, every one of the clients that work directly with him to do is to meditation exercises every single day. And whether you choose meditation where you try to clear all thoughts or where you focus on a monitor or any type, the point is, 10 minutes twice a day of meditation – that stillness alone, changes your connection with self and your sense of engagement. And there are some easy ways to meditate, infinite number of resources online. There’s an app called Insight Timer and it’s got brilliant resources – tons of thousands of free meditations. 10 minutes twice a day will change your world. It’s free, it’s simple. Hook up with an accountability buddy and start adding this to your world. Now, be fair, that this is something that Marshall has his clients do for the year he works with them, minimum year. Now, a year after they’ve worked with him, only 5% are continuing that because they go back into the pattern of saying, “I’m too busy. I can’t fit it in.” Build the pattern. We can work on the accountability and maintaining it later. 

Bruce Ross  

Okay, so there’s meditation and breath work is gratitude. What are some other, what’s another actual tip that our listeners can take? 

David Taylor – Klaus  

Okay, there’s another important piece about taking, learning, make it real. When you look at the books on your bookshelf, including mine, some of the books on there are shelfware. You buy them because you like the title. You buy them because you love the author. You buy it because you plan on reading it. And you never get around to it. I got nothing to help you read more, but what I do have is a tool that will help you get more out of what you read. It’s the REWIRE Framework.  

I built this book for Mindset Mondays with DTK. And when you come to my site, and we’ll talk about this in a minute of how to get it, the REWIRE Framework is a step-by-step framework that helps you take the learning you’ve got, create the framework to take it out in your world, and begin to experiment with it and make it real. Because it’s true – if you don’t use it, you lose it. And it’s important thing with any learning you’re doing to be intentional about how you’re going to apply what it is, so that you get something out of it. And whether this is a new mindset shift you want to play with, if it’s new critical body of information that you need to apply, you need to know for work, or whether it’s something for your personal growth, it doesn’t matter. This framework is designed to enable you to take that and make it real. Had I had this as I was growing my companies, oh dear God, it would have changed things for me dramatically. 

Bruce Ross  

Wow. So take us through that, because my next question is do you have a free resource? And I’m picking that this is the segway that you need to be able to share some of this technology, this process. 

David Taylor – Klaus  

Absolutely. Will be glad to. Look, the concept REWIRE is actually an acronym. I’m a word nerd, so I played it out that way. And what it stands for is reflect, experiment, right, investigate, revise and expand. Now the idea is this is a structured approach to integrate and reinforce new ways of thinking, being, or doing. So, reflect is that chance to pause, breathe, and reflect on the experience that, for instance, the mindset that we’re working within a chapter has had for you today or through the learning of that chapter. Now, experiment with it. In the book there are prompts that actually walk you through a specific set of prompts for each chapter, but how do you play with that new idea or new concept or new mindset out in your world, and notice what happens with it. Now, the writing piece. Renee Brown talks about the idea that writing, how different writing is from typing on a computer. Writing, she says, is taking things from head to heart to hand to paper. We know from the neuroscience that it is a dramatically different mechanism. It takes encoding and decoding processing and reflection to actually write something down on paper. So the idea here is to write about what occurred during the experiment and capture all of it, maybe put a page for journaling in every single chapter in the book. Investigate is based on what you’ve discovered, based on what you’ve captured, we get prompts for how to dig deeper and decide what you’ll do more or do less ever do differently in the future, revise that experiment and take it back out into your world again. Take what you’ve learned, reshape the experiment, revise it, put it out to the world to experiment with again. And then the most important piece is the last one which is expand, and expand is the chance to take the learning from this experience, and look at where else you can map it in your world. An essential element of coaching is looking at where do you take previous successes or learning and map it to new. That’s what the expand phrases. So that you’re not only taking the learning and using it for its sake. You are applying it and then looking at where else you can apply it in your world.  

Bruce Ross  

Fantastic. 

David Taylor – Klaus  

It is created by brain science to get you to make your learning lasting, meaningful and real.  

Bruce Ross  

Wow, so how to beat, how to close that knowing doing gap and make it completely simple. Yeah, fantastic. So, where can our listeners find that? 

David Taylor – Klaus 

When you go to https://www.mindsetmondayswithdtk.com, there’s a small form to download the REWIRE Framework for free. All the information for it is there, a little write-up about what it is, and a PDF you can download to begin to use it on your own.  

Bruce Ross  

Fantastic. So that information, that URL will be in the show notes beneath. Now, my last question is, what is the question that I should have asked you? And your answer. 

David Taylor – Klaus 

I actually love this question. My favourite question is, why do I hate the term ‘work-life balance’ so much? And I think that phrase is killing us. Look at it for a moment logically. Work-life balance. Whose absurd idea was is it to put work first? That’s kind of an inherent mindset that’s poisoning us. The idea, aJim Campbell Quick, a professor from Texas, talked about wearing our 70-hour work week like a badge of honor and then trying to jam life into the cracks around it. That’s a slow death, and it’s got us over calibrated the what’s unimportant vs. what’s important. We are paying attention to work more than our life when in fact, it should be crafting the life you want and then architecting your business or your career to support that life. The idea of finding some not balanced between your life and work, but the rhythm that works for you. So, one idea is to play with life-work rhythm, but then again, work shouldn’t get any more priority than play or family or connection or the things that truly move you. Work is just another part of life. So I hold that it should be ‘life rhythm’ instead of ‘work-life balance’.  

Bruce Ross  

Wow. What a powerful shift. Yeah, life rhythm. How do I start a way that gets me thinking about life and its entirety, as opposed to focusing on work and succeeding in that paradigm. Yeah, fantastic. This has been fascinating. It’s been educational, it’s been challenging, and practical. There’s this whole realm of REWIRE and now I recommend our listeners to go to David’s website. It’s https://www.mindsetmondayswithdtk.com and pick up that REWIRE, download; it sounds absolutely fascinating. So David, on behalf of myself and our listeners, I’d like to say thank you. This has been extraordinary. Thank you. 

David Taylor – Klaus  

My pleasure. Thanks for having me. 

Bruce Ross  

Most welcome.  

Bruce Ross 

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